He was my genuine friend and my personal Dominant in my life.
The following is my POV on what makes a Dom totally exceptional.
I completely admired and respected my Dom, when He filled that role. After we met at a play party one night during Dec '18, He took me to a pool the very next day comforting me. It was right then when He promised me He would look out for me and help me with my shortcomings while teaching me many beneficial lessons.
We had our D/s roles for around a year, but He didn't want to settle down with just 1 person. So as He distanced himself from me, I ended up meeting someone else and our roles ceased. He taught me many things, and He even keeps in touch, still helping me occasionally. The story below was a piece I wrote a while back while we were still together.
An exceptional Dom starts with the mutual respect afforded to BOTH parties.
I require this condition before entering into any future D/s relationship.
The proper training of their sub and the patient mutual understanding that they will give you are paramount. Even if you keep making mistakes, the dedicated, patient Dom will take your efforts into consideration and do what's best for BOTH of you. The way they are very passionate about training their sub properly is the best way to reach out to their sub. Even with mutual respect, I feel if you are going to be a good submissive, your primary goal should be to please your Dom and follow his directives. If He respects you, He will not guide you down the wrong path. If He did, He could lose you somehow, like injury or arrest, for example. Losing his dedicated, loyal sub is not in his best interest. We had a slightly different dynamic than most in the same type of relationship. The difference being we only had our roles during playtime, not 24/7!
On Wednesday, April 17, 2019, was the best time in our relationship that we had ever hoped for because He was pleased more than ever.
He said,
"what you did the past 5 minutes-was perfect!"
It overjoyed me I had pleased Him.
I had sucked His........................
TANTALIZING TOES!!
It was an amazing experience for both of us.
My response was,
"Thanks daddy It is my honor to please you as your loyal submissive."
He loved his ass played with and he was patient enough to explain His needs regarding His back massage and rear end. I tended to his back first.
He told me to "mow the lawn."
This maneuver is back and forth, light tracing while caressing Him with my fingers on his ass, his legs and his feet. As long as I was lightly caressing his body, He also needed his balls played with & this is the best way heat him up. We both know that lightly touching the balls is very erotic and sensual as we agreed that it's so important that we have the same bodies as we know the feeling of our identical equipment, unlike heterosexuals who do not have the same sensations as one another.
He required an open relationship between us to allow us to play with others.
FWB, BF (Best Friend), and roommate are just a few of the relationships we hold together. It really doesn't matter what terminology I use. He is an Aquarian and if you're knowledgeable about astrology; you realize that Aquarians place importance on friendship much as another places on family. So our bond was tighter than a virgin.
I usually have too much on my occupied mind to get focused on just one thing at a time, so He tells me to concentrate, slow down, and take a deep breath in order to oxygenate my brain. Since He noticed how much I always concentrated on Him, He would bring it to my attention when He was very pleased with me.
I had actually just started falling for Him, on this Wednesday eve in April, as He had the key to my heart for a moment. It was the first time I had ever had those types of feelings for anyone. My feelings had gotten stronger by the week. I was striving to be a part of the kinky community in which I met Him that night at the party. I felt exhilarated having Him by my side as my own personal Dom. I gave Him all my effort to show that I was His best sub. He had always told me that the proper way to reach out to people is to mirror their body language while I mimic them.
I impressed him with my constant performance many times as I tried to concentrate on His needs to be a great fit together.
He was a significant experience in my life, and influenced me because he had the strategy to make things happen correctly and solve the problem at hand so He could get me to calm down. He claims He always stays 7 moves ahead of His colleagues and rivals while He helped me to think about what the consequences would be and do what is best. Before His expert guidance, I would always lash out with bitter vengeance with disastrous results most of the time.
His fetish:
wrestling
mine:
rope bondage.
Although He never satisfied my fetish, we were always performing His, and would almost always hold me tight in His arms or legs.
I succumbed to His needs for wrestling so he could::
hold me tight against my resistance
or
limp with my submission.
It was my pleasure to submit to Him while he would hold me tight with His powerful arm holds along with His skill. He always made me feel wanted, needed and loved as He always nurtured and cared for me.
It was great while it lasted, but all pleasurable experiences must halt at some point.
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